Why 'Right Person, Wrong Time' Might Not Be Real

Placing importance on the concept of "right person, wrong time," by definition, puts most of the onus on the uncontrollable factor of time and none, if not any, on ourselves. Relationship enthusiast Caitlin Killoren argues in Relish that when you meet the right person, nothing (not even previous heartbreak or career choices) should stop the two of you from being together. In fact, both people should be able to support each other through those challenges. The famous cliché could also be masking other underlying issues like fear of intimacy or commitment problems, both of which could very well mean the person you met, was in fact, the wrong person for you.

We can't change the past and we certainly can't see the future. How can we know that someone who seemed a perfect fit for us but isn't really in the right place to start a relationship, would even get there in a few years' time? Or that we would've been a perfect fit for them two years ago?

Dating coach Matthew Hussey discusses in a YouTube video how all of us make the best decisions we can based on the information we have for ourselves at any given point in time, and that we change and evolve as people with that information. So, unless we have a time machine, there's no way to predict how someone would change to fit us better in the future.